Sunday, May 22, 2011

Tie a yellow ribbon round the ole oak tree.


We live not in a static world, but one that fluctuates in tandem with time. One which evolves, with huts being bulldozed away to make way for skyscrapers, where older politicians get replaced by new ones adorning sparkly shoes and well-tailored coats, where generations get replaced by new generations. We live in a world that is constantly changing inevitably and surely with each tick of the second hand on the face of a clock.

With physical changes, it is almost necessary to change mindsets and reservations we may have and to adapt to the novel environment around us. Take for example Facebook, the social network that was brought social interaction to the next level. While the younger generation may breathe, eat and sleep Facebook, the older generations may feel phased out and even obsolete, that is if they decide to remain static. Keeping an open mind, however allows them to embrace this new culture albeit with a pinch of salt and stay relevant to the youths of today, perhaps to even understand their own children better. This may apply to an assortment of things – from technology to brands to even the pop icons of today!

Changing our mindset with time and constantly bettering ourselves is not just crucial to stay relevant but also in terms of how we accept the world around us. We can either fight change or swallow the bitter pill and honestly speaking, the latter is much less catastrophic. As human beings we do not have the capacity to fight change, to deny it or even insist that certain things are supposed to be sacrosanct. Nothing is sacrosanct. So we adjust ourselves to the novel situations and go with the flow, without wishing the past would reprise.

Changes aside, human beings are ever so comparable to a tree. We start off, with our foundations (the roots) before we branch out and reach the rest of the world through our actions and words (the shoots) and benefit the world in any way we can (through fruits and flowers) and eventually we give rise to new generations to take over our place (through seeds). I think before the entire process of life unfolds before us and before we are subjected to this ever-changing world, the foundations are extremely important. These comprise our values, our morals and our utmost connection with God. If these are compromised in any way, whether one has shoots or flowers or fruits does not matter at the end of the day. The most important issue is whether the base is stable, because if it is not, a gust of wind may topple the entire tree over, regardless of how much it has given to the world. The ultimate goal is ultimately to reach a stage where we are deeply rooted (pun intended) in our belief systems for ourselves before we branch out to reach others and before we branch out into the evolving world. But of course, while maintaining a feedback system to continually renew and better oneself and replace old roots as well those getting ebbed away by termites. One should always embrace change but stay grounded in (good) values at the end of the day and make sure the oak grows deep into the ground before it gives back to the world and embraces changes over years and years to come!




Thursday, April 7, 2011

Memoirs of a lab rat.

As honours year draws to an end, a mixture of emotions well up within me. This has by far been one of the most trying years of my University life – physically and mentally. Whatever it may be, subsequently tiding over the bad moments allows one to come out more polished and undeniably stronger. After all, even a piece of coal requires years of pressure and harsh conditions to emerge in the form of a diamond – nature says it all.

Being my first research experience proper, I was initially highly apprehensive about what to expect from a research lab. Being the bottommost rung of the ladder (below the phD and masters students), it was harsh, often painful. As with every organisational structure, the bottommost rung inevitably gets stepped on and treated unjustly. It was then I realised that lab dynamics were far from an easy game. In lab you need to prove yourself in terms of your capabilities, your passion and your drive. Many a times, the harsh treatment chipped at me (because I wear my heart on my sleeve), but I never held grudges. If I had, I would not be standing here today, appreciative of every single person in lab. In one way or another, each of these people has played a role in making a difference to my life – be it via hurtful remarks or kind words. And each of these people was sent by God for some purpose.

It was all worthwhile at the end of the day – skipping meals, the late nights at lab alone, the minor accidents (I am thankful I have not grown an extra toe yet), the eye strain, the backaches, the harsh comments; the list goes on. But I am also deeply appreciative of the people I came to know and the quirky incidents every now and then which made my day. As a whole package, this has been one rollercoaster ride of emotions which remain forever etched in my brain.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Thorns among the roses

Valentine’s day is around the corner and soon enough the streets will be bustling with bouquets of lilies, roses and all sorts of blooms. Romantics at heart will declare their love and commitment for their significant others and the famous winged cupid will shoot arrows in all directions, in hope of finding a target. Men will kneel in front of those they wish to spend the rest of their lives with, holding a box with a gem like none other. Flower shops and chocolate confectionaries will welcome the hordes of orders (and the greens) with open arms and the atmosphere will flourish with the sweet smell of love. This is undoubtedly, the ideal situation.

Love is a subjective matter indeed. What may be of absolute importance to one in a significant other may be entirely different from the expectations of another. The feeling of love may be consistent across the globe, but the means of expressing it may be tweaked. Some experience it without saying a word, while others need dramatic entrances and bouquets of flowers. Some hold another’s hand without a question of doubt in their eyes, while others need explanations and open gestures. The meaning, however, remains the same and tugs at the same heart strings, making the heart beat to another’s name. Yes, you may label me a hopeless romantic. But I think loving someone should be void of anything that can taint it – expectations, distrust, disloyalty and the likes. Even if one party does not express it extravagantly, it strums your heart’s strings to a melodious tune.

Over here, I do not speak of merely love between a man and a woman, or significant others. I speak of love in all forms – love for people you do not know, love for relatives, love for friends and most of all love for God. There are several times when unconditional love becomes extremely difficult as situations in life get you entangled in a series of thoughts. But letting go of these and accepting another in spite of their imperfections can truly allow one to unconditionally love another. After all, even a rose has thorns. Nature speaks for itself.

So embrace your neighbour, embrace your friends, embrace your loved ones and embrace yourself. Because if you do not love yourself to begin with; it becomes difficult for people to love you. And most importantly, embrace love, in its purest form, untainted by jealousy, greed and other emotions which raise doubt. Extend your arms and embrace that rose in its entirety - thorns or not.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

una canción preciosa

Only Hope, From A Walk to Remember - one of the most beautiful songs ever written and one of the most beautiful movies ever made.


There's a song that's inside of my soul.
It's the one that I've tried to write over and over again
I'm awake in the infinite cold.
But you sing to me over and over and over again.

So, I lay my head back down.
And I lift my hands and pray
To be only yours, I pray, to be only yours
I know now you're my only hope.

Sing to me the song of the stars.
Of your galaxy dancing and laughing and laughing again.
When it feels like my dreams are so far
Sing to me of the plans that you have for me over again.

So I lay my head back down.
And I lift my hands and pray
To be only yours, I pray, to be only yours
I know now, you're my only hope.

I give you my destiny.
I'm giving you all of me.
I want your symphony, singing in all that I am
At the top of my lungs, I'm giving it back.

So I lay my head back down.
And I lift my hands and pray
To be only yours, I pray, to be only yours
I pray, to be only yours
I know now you're my only hope.



Unconditional love is difficult to achieve, but never impossible. One that does not have strings attached, one that is void of expectations. One that is built on strong faith that radiates from within and gives, without asking for anything back in return. Something which makes us truly happy not just on the outside but from within. And so I lift my hands and pray.

Saturday, January 15, 2011

someone changed the sign boards.

This is absurd and completely flabbergasting. Change is inevitable - it is part and parcel of our daily life, but this change that has taken the world by storm and left millions in an identity crisis. A 13th zodiac sign has left people in a whirlpool of confusion. Those who strongly believe in astrology probably have to chuck aside books and artefacts belonging to the zodiac sign they once held to as a component of their identities. What we seemed to believe over the years has to be scraped and thrown into the garbage chute. That is, if we choose to believe what astrologer Marcie McCaffery is uttering.

Zodiac signs represent constellations that cross the sun's ecliptic or path over the span of a year. In total there were 12 of these, but recent discoveries point towards an additional constellation - Orphiucus. Little is known about this newly introduced zodiac sign but it is located to the east of Scorpius and to the west of Sagittarius. It is said to be represented by a man grasping a serpent, dividing it into two parts and is the only sign linked to a real man. The new breakdown as reported is shown below.

Capricorn: Jan. 20 - Feb. 16
Aquarius: Feb. 16 - March 11
Pisces: March 11 - April 18
Aries: April 18 - May 13
Taurus: May 13 - June 21
Gemini: June 21 - July 20
Cancer: July 20 - Aug. 10
Leo: Aug. 10 - Sept. 16
Virgo: Sept. 16 - Oct. 30
Libra: Oct. 30 - Nov. 23
Scorpio: Nov. 23 - 29.
Ophiuchus: Nov. 29 - Dec. 17
Sagittarius: Dec. 17 - Jan. 20

Now the decision lies with us, whether we would like to believe in this tale being churned out. Whether this is fact or fiction remains to be decided. But millions have been confounded by this shocking new revelation. Only time will tell whether people will embrace this and whether this turns the tables or changes anything is another matter. Does this change the person we are and do these signs actually depict our personality traits? This is a highly subjective matter and I for one do not feel that these demonstrate how we think, respond, interact and behave as individuals. It should not. The question at hand is how invested are we in our zodiac signs at the end of the day and whether this comes across as fact or fiction. I refuse to budge from being a sagittarian. I cannot be a Scorpion - am far from one. Meanwhile, denial it is.

Friday, December 31, 2010

chapter 1: A new beginning, or maybe not.

The boat started to sink, ever so steadily. She knew how to swim and yet she couldn’t; her arms and legs were frozen. She tried to call for help, but nothing but a whisper escaped her mouth. It sank with her into the dark waters. She saw figures floating around. Figures of people she thought she knew. She could not breathe; she held her breath until she could no longer do so. She could not hold on much longer, she felt her lungs compressing. Her screams reverberated in her head, growing louder and louder and louder still.

With a jolt she woke up on her queen-sized bed, gasping for air with her forehead damp with perspiration. She swiped at her forehead wiping it and sat upright for some time, calming herself down from the horrific episode. She had been having these disturbing images while in deep sleep a couple of times now, often waking up, panting. It was especially bad after she lost Nathan, her husband of 6 years, a couple of months ago. It seems as though the mental wounds and psychological wounds never managed to fully heal, together with her aching heart. Pouring herself a glass of water from the bottle by the bedroom lamp, she steadied herself and reminded herself it was not real; it was a mere figment of her imagination, as she guzzled the cooling liquid.

Her alarm rang and she hit the top button. It was 7am. Her biological clock had gotten so accustomed to the time that she barely needed to rely on her alarm clock; she would wake up a minute or two beforehand. But she set it anyway, for precautionary measure. She placed the glass down and swung her legs off the bed to get up. Walking to the full length mirror she ran her fingers through her short, springy auburn curls. At thirty one, Catalina Rose Valdez had not aged one second. She could still pass off as a woman in her early twenties. She barely wore make up, save for occasion powder and blush. Alas, she did not need to, because her natural beauty spoke for itself. Her well-chiselled nose, almond-shaped hazel eyes and auburn curls were sufficient to make heads turn as she walked the streets.

Catalina grew up under the guidance of her grandmother, who she loved dearly, never knowing who her biological parents were. They had left her at her grandmother’s doorstep and Catalina never bothered to trace them down because her grandmother never made her feel as though she was alone in the world. Her grandmother claimed that the moment she laid her eyes on her, her heart sank at the act at her parents had performed, but she wholeheartedly accepted the bundle of joy. The moment she stared into her hazel eyes, she got reminded of an angel, and hence named her Catalina, which was Spanish for Aikaterine, the greek term for ‘pure’. Catalina called her grandmother abuelita , an affectionate term for grandmother, in Spanish.

Having spent her childhood and teenage years in Salamanca, a city in Western Spain, she was fluent in her mother tongue, or what she would rather call, grandmother tongue, Spanish but her English was never compromised. She studied in a catholic school and grew up with a passion for history, mythology and ancient civilisations. After all, Salamanca was so rich in culture and heritage that it was declared by UNESCO as a world heritage site in 1988. She loved the way things developed and evolved and civilisations grew and got erased from the surface of the earth. When Catalina passed her eighteenth, her grandmother passed on from old age, leaving her what hard-earned money she had from selling self-woven hats. Her grandmother was a breast cancer survivor and gave others with that incurable disease the faith to live. She was a strong woman. Catalina was deeply shattered by the loss of her confidante, her guidance and her pillar of support and was left with no choice but to travel to the states to live with her distant aunt, who she did not even know how she was related to.

In the present day, Catalina freshened up and walked to her kitchen to make herself some breakfast. She felt as though she was shedding weight by the kilos and needed some carbohydrate. Switching on the coffee machine, she scooped in a few spoonfuls of her favourite Arabica coffee beans and dropped two toasts into the toaster and went back to reminiscing. Her so-called aunt Muriel had accepted her into her abode in Los Angeles, near Westwood village, albeit unwillingly. She could sense it from her sourness-laden voice and the way her lips would scrunch up into a frown every time Catalina walked in. Catalina merely shrugged it off, though she felt the pang in her heart every time she thought of her late albuelita. It was then that Catalina decided to study what she was passionate about, history, with a second major in mythology at the University of Los Angeles, California (UCLA). She knew her albuelita would be proud, watching over her from the heavens. The college was a stone’s throw away from Aunt Muriel’s house.

Spreading marmalade on her toast she threw a glance over at the easel next to the couch. Resting on it was a canvas block with a portrait of her late husband Nathan Smith painted onto it using Acrylic paint. She loved painting as it helped her go into pensive and put things into perspective. She dreadfully missed Nathan and she remembered his face all too clearly. His dimpled smile, his wavy dark brown hair, his well-chiselled jaw line and his twinkling eyes which lit up when he spoke of what he loved. She smiled wistfully as she recollected the day she met Nathan at UCLA. He was three years her senior and was majoring in forensic science and did a minor in mythology. They met at mythology lectures, sharing a common interest. They would study together at the Powell library on campus and have long chats in the cafeteria with scoopfuls of Baskin-Robins and occasionally do crosswords together. Chocolate chip cookie dough was their favourite. As the quarterback of the university American football team, he was popular, yet down to earth and had his eyes set on no one but Catalina.

After graduating, Nathan joined the Los Angeles Police Department, to become an LAPD officer. He had always wanted to serve the society, wanted to replace the bad with good, wanted to instill peace in the neighbourhood. A humanitarian, he always served when he could, be it at charity organisations or fundraisers. As an LAPD officer, he stuck firmly to his duty and was always ready to serve. He wore his badge with pride and Catalina wore him as a badge with pride. When Catalina was in her final year, Nathan proposed to her in his uniform in the middle of a luscious field on campus. He knelt down on a knee and pulled out a velvety red box which drew Catalina’s breath away and when she saw the ring she nodded without him having to utter a single word. They got engaged then and married the next day at a small catholic church. Catalina used to tease him, saying that his surname, Smith, did not go well with her first and middle names and Nathan used to reply cheekily that if that was the case, he would change it the next day to what she deemed fit.

After they tied the knot, Catalina shifted out of Aunt Muriel’s house, kissed her goodbye on the cheeks, hugged her one last time and thanked her for everything before moving into Nathan’s house. They built a home together and he urged her to follow her dreams. Upon graduating she decided to contribute back to her alma mater and teach what she loved. He believed in her and that made her believe in her capabilities. He used to joke that she would make a fabulous female president if she wanted to. Now he was gone, she thought to herself as tears filled her eyes. She wiped away her tears as they trickled down her cheek and ate what she could of her breakfast. She poured her coffee into a thermos flask and collected the notes which she burnt the midnight oil drafting. World history: a spotlight on Europe. She gathered her papers and carefully inserted them into her briefcase, which usually rested at a permanent spot on her couch. Throwing on a shirt and a pleated skirt, she took one final glance at her reflection and tried to muster a smile and she ran her fingers through her curls. She could do this - her first lecture for the semester. Although she was one of the youngest teaching staffs, she was well-revered by her colleagues and students.

Collecting her briefcase and thermos and swinging her handbag over her right shoulder she took one final glance around her apartment and left her flat, locking behind herself. She heard the joyful bark of her neighbour’s dog Powter as it pawed at her skirt until she delivered a pat to his head. The fox terrier was being taken for a morning walk by the neighbour living across her, Maurice, the sweetest sixty year old lady she ever knew. She knew she could never replace her albuelita but she deeply respected her and since she had been widowed at a young age, they could empathize with one another. She had only Powter and Catalina in her life and she loved Catalina like a daughter she never had. She smiled broadly as she saw Catalina and asked her to come over for some sponge cake and Himalayan tea, her speciality, in the afternoon. Catalina nodded and smiled back as she bade goodbye. ‘Hasta pronto see you soon’, she uttered.

The class was larger than she had expected, but the moment she entered and saw eager faces smiling back at her, she felt herself ease and introduced herself as Catalina Rose Smith. And so it begins, she thought to herself, as she smiled both internally and externally.

In a distant part of downtown Los Angeles they slapped him hard across his face. He was gagged and tied to a structure and looked like he had aged by decades. The light above his head swung precariously. He sat defeated and without an ounce of energy within him to struggle any longer. The figures in front of him snorted and spat distastefully on his face. He thought this was one of his better treatments he had gotten. In the pale light, red slashes of blood and gashes could be seen across his face, arms and body, some fresh, some dried. They ungagged him momentarily to force water down his throat and when they untied the cloth, he begged, ‘please, let me go. My wife needs me. He’s free now, what do you need. I’ll give you what you need. You already killed my son. Please let me go. Please.’ It hurt for him to talk, it hurt for him to move but nothing hurted like the pain inside of him. One of the figures laughed as he barked back ‘she thinks you’re dead. She thinks you’re gone. It’s over.’ He glanced over at the other figure as they laughed silently and gagged him back.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

something i penned with a bout of inspiration (a prologue)

It was black, it always was. She could not do without a mug of black coffee from freshly ground Arabica coffee beans. Looking around, she heaved a sigh of relief as she sipped the lukewarm beverage. It had been some time since she could sit and breathe evenly. She reached into her pocket and drew out a photograph of her son and thumbing the photograph she reminisced about the moments she still had him in his life. It had been five years since she had lost James and the memories of that day haunted her. She could never wash those memories out and she will never forget his last few words. First she had lost her son James and then her husband Nathan, who she had tied the knot with 6 years ago. Her world had crumbled into pieces and it took some time for her to gather herself and re-build that faith to live. She had to keep fighting, for them, for justice.

It was then she noticed the back of a leather jacket with that logo she would never forget on a man at the counter. She immediately covered her auburn hair with the hood of her jacket and sipped the last few drops of her coffee. Paying the nervous waitress nearby, she hurriedly gathered her purse and belongings and slid off the chair to leave, without waiting for her change. She had to make sure she was not noticed as she walked out of the cafe, she could not afford to be recognised.

The skies had turned dark and a slight drizzle dampened the sidewalks, making them glisten as the pale moonlight reflected off them. She took quick, quiet footsteps and walked as fast as she could. As she half-turned, she noticed a figure walk out of the cafe. Not being able to make out his face and not daring to stare too long, she quickened her footsteps and tightened her fist in her pockets. The chilly November wind made her shiver through her cardigan but nothing caused more pain than the chill in her heart which was trampled to pieces. She could hear his footsteps now, quickening ever so gradually and her heart began to pound loud enough for her to hear in her own ears. She must not panic; she had to find justice for her son and her beloved husband. Her brisk walk turned into a slow jog and eventually a dash towards a familiar neighbourhood. Finally when she could not hear his footsteps anymore, she turned to check and sure enough, she was alone. Turning back towards her flat and upon reaching home, she locked the door and fell onto the couch to let her heart settle from what she thought could have been the last day of her life. And what could have possibly been the last mug of black coffee that ever entered her body.

She turned towards a photograph of James, Nathan and herself at the Grand Canyon when they were still one happy family, untainted by the horrors of what came after. Tears streamed down her cheek as she whispered that she will fight for justice; that she will fight for them till her very last breath. She promised.