Like being in a trance, sometimes we get tied up emotionally and physically with a certain aspect or situation in our lives so much so that we lose ourselves. We start to do things we never used to do, or lose our identities so that someone else may stay happy while we are subtly hurting ourselves without even realizing it. We start to fit ourselves into a formula, a formula determined by someone else or the situation itself. But is it worth it? By hurting ourselves, we indirectly end up hurting the people who do love you the way you are and never questioned you - family, loved ones and those who held your hand and let you hold theirs whenever they were in trouble.
Any relationship in life ultimately does not rely based on simply what others do for you. A stranger can conduct an act of kindness for another - that does not equate to a life-long bond. Doing something for someone should be like donating blood - anonymous and never asking for anything back in return, even if it means never talking about what you do for others. That is what I was taught as a child - never to speak about what I do for others.
In any case, for a relationship to blossom into something that even diamonds cannot scratch involves more than doing things for someone, it involves understanding that person and allowing that person to be there for you as well, without even having to ask. It involves letting go with the faith that even if someone is away he/she is always there for you. It does not talk about working things a certain way, but accepting whichever way a person works, with no expectations whatsoever. It involves knowing someone even more than they know themselves. It involves giving the benefit of the doubt instead of accusing or cornering or taking hurt and insult onto yourself because you know that person never means to hurt you. It is about knowing that you don't buy a relationship, but you let it develop over time.
It naturally will, that is, if it is meant to. If it is not meant to, even time and trying will not let it develop. If God does not have it in our lifelong plan, then it will not manifest no matter how much one tries. But if it is meant to happen, it blossoms into something so precious and that may take years even decades, but it does if it is meant to. Not by trying but by letting go and letting it develop as it does, naturally. The doors to my heart are always open, in any case.
I am nonetheless thankful for the precious relationships that I have in my life, with family, friends and all my loved ones - these relationships which blossomed and ripened like wine over time have truly brought me to the stage that I am in life and I will be eternally grateful to God for letting these develop as I developed. My friends who literally grew up with me and stood the test of time with me will always be precious to me, friends I met along this journey and who continue to share this journey without ever questioning me will also remain dear to me for they also made room in my heart and of course my family who gave me unconditional love no matter what and the latest addition to my life, my life partner and soul mate, who brings out the best in me.
Above all, a lesson every step in life teaches us is that we need to learn how to let go and take our hands of the control buttons and let nature take its course. Most of all, we need to remember that we can only do much and when we are out of breath or fall in exhaustion emotionally and physically, that only God can show the path. We are nothing but God's servants anyway. Everything in my entire life is in your hands, God. You know me best.
Any relationship in life ultimately does not rely based on simply what others do for you. A stranger can conduct an act of kindness for another - that does not equate to a life-long bond. Doing something for someone should be like donating blood - anonymous and never asking for anything back in return, even if it means never talking about what you do for others. That is what I was taught as a child - never to speak about what I do for others.
In any case, for a relationship to blossom into something that even diamonds cannot scratch involves more than doing things for someone, it involves understanding that person and allowing that person to be there for you as well, without even having to ask. It involves letting go with the faith that even if someone is away he/she is always there for you. It does not talk about working things a certain way, but accepting whichever way a person works, with no expectations whatsoever. It involves knowing someone even more than they know themselves. It involves giving the benefit of the doubt instead of accusing or cornering or taking hurt and insult onto yourself because you know that person never means to hurt you. It is about knowing that you don't buy a relationship, but you let it develop over time.
It naturally will, that is, if it is meant to. If it is not meant to, even time and trying will not let it develop. If God does not have it in our lifelong plan, then it will not manifest no matter how much one tries. But if it is meant to happen, it blossoms into something so precious and that may take years even decades, but it does if it is meant to. Not by trying but by letting go and letting it develop as it does, naturally. The doors to my heart are always open, in any case.
I am nonetheless thankful for the precious relationships that I have in my life, with family, friends and all my loved ones - these relationships which blossomed and ripened like wine over time have truly brought me to the stage that I am in life and I will be eternally grateful to God for letting these develop as I developed. My friends who literally grew up with me and stood the test of time with me will always be precious to me, friends I met along this journey and who continue to share this journey without ever questioning me will also remain dear to me for they also made room in my heart and of course my family who gave me unconditional love no matter what and the latest addition to my life, my life partner and soul mate, who brings out the best in me.
Above all, a lesson every step in life teaches us is that we need to learn how to let go and take our hands of the control buttons and let nature take its course. Most of all, we need to remember that we can only do much and when we are out of breath or fall in exhaustion emotionally and physically, that only God can show the path. We are nothing but God's servants anyway. Everything in my entire life is in your hands, God. You know me best. 
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